I check mine first thing in the morning, set off a couple builds, and then I don't look at it until I get back home in the evening. My brother checks on my account from work occasionally, but I try not to rely on that too much. I know it sounds silly, but this is your first time playing Travian. I suggest you redefine success. It's not as if you heroed your first CF character, right? Just have fun and don't worry so much about being the big badass in the neighborhood. Just learn the game and enjoy it.