But that's basically true with every game.
Personally, I selfishly hated Niheriva, too, because you went out of your way to make yourself difficult to stalk. This was frustrating because at the time I wanted to ensure I assassinated all the active players I could so that no one could say "only noobs get assassinated! it's so easy to avoid! It takes a lot of skill to assassinate someone!" For a long time I thought I would never assassinate Niheriva or Victoria. But then I got over it :)
There is a selfishness (and self centeredness) at the core of all these people's complaints against you. They want you to play the game in a way that makes it more fun for them, or makes it easier for them to achieve their goals. I think if you recognize that, it might make it easier to ignore it and have fun with a character as successful as Niheriva and Iltch were.