I've triggers on my side with big ass patterns to highlight damage.

In CMUD XML format they look like:

to highlight my damage:
<font face="lucida console" color=darkblue>&lt;trigger priority="2030" case="true" regex="true" id="87"&gt;
&lt;pattern&gt;&lt;![CDATA[^(Your? .*) (miss|misses|scratch|scratches|grazes?|hits?|injures?|wounds?|mauls?|decimates?|devastates?|maims?|MUTILATES?|DISEMBOWELS?|EVISCERATES?|DISMEMBERS?|MASSACRES?|MANGLES?|\*\*\* DEMOLISH \*\*\*|\*\*\* DEMOLISHES \*\*\*|\*\*\* DEVASTATES? \*\*\*|=== OBLITERATES? ===|&gt;&gt;&gt; ANNIHILATES? &lt;&lt;&lt;|&lt;&lt;&lt; ERADICATES? &gt;&gt;&gt;|UNSPEAKABLE|toasts?|parches|parch|heats?|blisters?|burns?|roasts?|smolders?|scalds?|singes?|BROILS?|SEARS?|CHARS?|RAZES?|TORCH|TORCHES|\*\*\* BLASTS? \*\*\*|\*\*\* SCORCH \*\*\*|\*\*\* SCORCHES \*\*\*|=== INCINERATES? ===|&gt;&gt;&gt; CAUTERIZES? &lt;&lt;&lt;|&lt;&lt;&lt; CREMATES? &gt;&gt;&gt;|concerns?|disquiets?|daunts?|scares?|jolts?|startles?|flusters?|alarms?|stupefy|stupefies|DISTRESS|DISTRESSES|DISTURBS?|STAGGERS?|RATTLES?|FRIGHTENS?|\*\*\* TRAUMATIZES? \*\*\*|\*\*\* HARROWS? \*\*\*|=== TERRIFIES ===|=== TERRIFY ===|&gt;&gt;&gt; HORRIFY &lt;&lt;&lt;|&gt;&gt;&gt; HORRIFIES &lt;&lt;&lt;|&lt;&lt;&lt; PETRIFY &gt;&gt;&gt;|&lt;&lt;&lt; PETRIFIES &gt;&gt;&gt;) (.+)$]]&gt;&lt;/pattern&gt;
&lt;value&gt;#PCOL @MyHitsColor %x1
#PCOL @MyDamageColor %x2
#PCOL @MyHitsColor %x3&lt;/value&gt;
&lt;/trigger&gt;</font>

to highlight enemies damage
<font face="lucida console" color=darkblue>&lt;trigger priority="2040" case="true" regex="true" id="88"&gt;
&lt;pattern&gt;&lt;![CDATA[(misses|scratches|grazes|hits|injures|wounds|mauls|decimates|devastates|maims|MUTILATES|DISEMBOWELS|EVISCERATES|DISMEMBERS|MASSACRES|MANGLES|\*\*\* DEMOLISHES \*\*\*|\*\*\* DEVASTATES \*\*\*|=== OBLITERATES ===|&gt;&gt;&gt; ANNIHILATES &lt;&lt;&lt;|&lt;&lt;&lt; ERADICATES &gt;&gt;&gt;|toasts|parches|heats|blisters|burns|roasts|smolders|scalds|singes|BROILS|SEARS|CHARS|RAZES|TORCHES|\*\*\* BLASTS \*\*\*|\*\*\* SCORCHES \*\*\*|=== INCINERATES ===|&gt;&gt;&gt; CAUTERIZES &lt;&lt;&lt;|&lt;&lt;&lt; CREMATES &gt;&gt;&gt;|concerns|disquietes|daunts|scares|joltes|startles|flusters|alarms|stupefies|DISTRESSES|DISTURBS|STAGGERS|RATTLES|FRIGHTENS|\*\*\* TRAUMATIZES \*\*\*|\*\*\* HARROWS \*\*\*|=== TERRIFIES ===|&gt;&gt;&gt; HORRIFIES &lt;&lt;&lt;|&lt;&lt;&lt; PETRIFIES &gt;&gt;&gt;|UNSPEAKABLE)( things to)? you(.|!)$]]&gt;&lt;/pattern&gt;
&lt;value&gt;#PCOL @EnemyDamageColor %x1&lt;/value&gt;
&lt;/trigger&gt;</font>

And I leave third party damage colors untouched (so they are shown dark red by CF).