I'm not sure what's the exact reason of all that hatred but I really doubt it's because you realized somebody has OOC connection. Where do you think are all these newbies came from? From Top Mud sites? Lol definitely no. These came just after somebody's invitation who told lots of stories how CF is good etc. And first steps of newbies are also supported with advises etc. People tend to talk to each other.
Even if you take a look a little bit closer at this particular situation apart of shitstorm and just compare how much of hrs has all denied characters and how much of time they spent 'benefiting each other' and 'ruining the game' - i'm sure you'll be surprised. But actually nobody cares and happened what happened. Just don't be hypocrite - that's my point.