The best way to get a stiff response, or no response it all, is to do the ol' "Why did you just kick my teeth in?" routine. I always hated that.
Look at it this way - Some guy who you probably never speak to, but whose ass you just killed, thinks you owe him a role entry that explains why you targeted him. How silly is that? First, go beat his ass, and THEN ask him what the hell he was thinking that other time when he got you. I bet he'll be more interested in talking when you are ransoming his hummingbird pendants for the info.
It's a cut-throat game, and that's a big part of what makes it fun. Become more ruthless and you will enjoy it in CF. Remember: Bash first, talk later.