Some people just note that so and so took shit and it sucks. That's not bitching and moaning. In most cases, everyone who dies expects everything to be gone, but it sucks that it happens. We all know we're going to die, it just sucks when it happens, is a decent enough analogy. It's when people go OOC over loosing equipment and then make a vendetta in game to full loot a person everytime they multikill that character. Some people take this WAAAAY too seriously.