My wife and I fought/fight over times i spent on the computer a bunch, and after 6 years of marriage she kinda just leaves me alone now. Right now I work..she don't not entirely her fault because she was hurt at work, but still I spend 8+ hours a day making money so we can have a home etc, and I feel like if I want to spend some time on the computer, then I'm entitled. As long as you don't completely ignore her she is being unreasonable. My advice, take a stand now or when you do finally get fed up with your life being overrun it'll just be worse. Work a compromise, the wife and I set aside days of the week where I could play without getting bitched at. It worked for awhile, but eventually she is going to expect you to give up a night "just to be with her." But by god she won't let you give up a night of being with her to go play. Bah I got on a bit of a rant, but it's been a sore topic of conversation with me and my wife for awhile and I've got alot to say about it. The jumbled up mess above can be summarized as this:
If spending time on the computer is something you see yourself doing alot, work out that compromise now and make her stick to it. Don't give in because in the end you will be miserable and make her miserable. Be sure when you do spend time with her, that your total focus is her and do things she likes to do, even if it means spending a night shopping or some other feminine crap that men tend to hate. In the perfect world you would marry a woman who likes doing the same things you do. And if ever end up in another relationship that is something I will be sure is happens.